Well, at least there’s that...

How do you know when you’re making a good decision? I’ve heard some people say “ I just had a feeling”.  Feelings are indicators and should not be ignored. “Well that’s just against everything I’ve beern taught. “ I’ve been told that feelings are liars. Yep, that if you feel like crying you should stuff it and be brave. That is so wrong. Feelings are indicators of what’s going on around you and even in your own mind.  Let’s take fear for an example.  There are healthy fears. Bet you never heard that before. I haven’t. So, I’m afraid of snakes. Do you know why? They bite.  Also I don’t have enough information about snakes to know which ones are poisonous or not. I’m afraid of alligators. I don’t know any friendly alligators.  All I know about alligators is that they are sneaky. They will eat almost anything and like people. I mean to eat, not to have lunch with. Ha! Let’s see, what else... fire, tornadoes, lightning, do you see my point? Fear is an indicator of danger. Fear in its

I know I keep talking about this , but I just can’t help it. God’s love is ridiculous. There’s no rhyme or reason to it. I have a few friends that I know cherish me. They love me just the way I am with the hope that I won’t stay this way. I know they have my back. I never wonder what they are thinking, they don’t condemn me and they don’t spiritualize my problems. I don’t have to beg their forgiveness and I never feel that I have to explain myself. I am truly blessed to have them in my life. But I know that as much as they love me, it doesn’t compare to the love of  Christ.  He has my back in ways that I can’t imagine. He always thinks the best of me and when I’m wrong he gives me time to listen to his still small voice. If I’m angry he listens and waits because he knows that I’ll always come back to him. If I have a bad attitude he doesn’t reject me. Again, he waits. He doesn’t pout or get offended, he treasures me.  I respect him. I love him and the more I get to know Him the gre

There has been much speculation as to why Cain's offering was unacceptable to God. I’d like to explore a few of those theories. That’s all they can be is theories because there are no real facts or details to give us any real information. (See Genesis 4) The speculation that I disagree with the most is that Cain didn’t bring a lamb. God had not established a covenant yet. The Bible does describe Abel’s offering differently. It states that Abel brought "his best", It says that Cain brought “some”. Then there’s the issue of the heart. I wonder if Abel’s heart and Cain’s attitude were the divining factor? I mean the Bible says that Abel’s offering was accepted. But it says that when Cain’s wasn’t he got angry at God. He didn't try to fix his mistake. He didn't even ask God to forgive him. No, he got so angry that he took his brother on a walk and Abel never came home. Do you think Cain might have had some problems with his attitude? Now it wasn’t like Cain didn

When I go into a restaurant and they ask me my name...I hesitate. See blog ,”but that is my first name.”  I was in a Chick Fil La one day and the lady asked my name and I said, “Jeff.” I thought it would be easier.. When she brought my order to the table she looked as confused as if I’d told her my real name. She questioned, “Jeff?” I paused and then I remembered that was me. We both got a good laugh out of it. So, now if I give someone a different name I do my best to remember what that name is. Bet you don’t have that problem. ha! I’ve been thinking about two kinds of people in the world. Well, two kinds of relationships you can have with people in the world. How does this connect with an order number? Give me a minute. The first kind of relationship is that of an observer. This is when you don’t know someone very well or they are just an acquaintance. Sometimes people stay in the observer stage because it’s much safer. The next stage is that of a participant. This is the pe

So, I was at the store tonight and I picked up a candy bar. I noted once again that they were putting names on them, What’s up with that? You know I won’t ever find a Barjeana Coke or candy bar. If you find one, please post a picture, That’s just too weird. So, anyway, I was mentioning this ever so lightly to a checker at the register and he said, “you know what?” “They don’t have my name either!” I’m  like, “What?” He said, “Yes, my name is Jack? And they ain’t got Jack!” Hence the title of this blog. I was shocked. I mean, no Jack? What’s up with that? I hope you have a good day and if you’re name isn’t on a Coke or candy bar, just remember, “They ain’t got Jack!” Lol!

You thought this was going to be about sex didn’t you? Well, it might be. I guess you’ll have to read more to find out. But, before (if) we get that far...let’s take a step back. Why do most people get married? I may be misinformed, but I think it’s because they don’t want to be alone. “Uh oh”. By the way, that’s my new name given to me by my granddaughters! Love it! Well, if that’s true....why don’t people like to be alone? I mean, I get it. Sometimes it sucks to go to a movie by yourself, it really sucks to eat dinner alone. BUT what if you liked your own company? Can you list five things that you like about yourself? NO that’s not arrogance...again. It’s confidence. I like being around me because I’m funny (at least I am to me). I like being around me because sometimes I’m unpredictable. I like being around me because people smile back at me. Do you see? I know me. How well do you know you? Are you waiting for someone to introduce yourself to you through validation? Am I

That’s really an odd question if you think about it. I mean. If you remembered, wouldn’t you have remembered not to forget? Just a thought. Of course all of my blogs start with a thought. Life starts with a thought. So tonight I’m thinking about all the times I've had to fix or do things without any help. Since I became unmarried, there have been many times when there was no one available to help. I mean I’ve had some great neighbors and some family, but like tonight. There wasn’t anyone. I remember during the divorce process when I was cleaning out two storage buildings. One of them was so full that I had to hurry and close the door before something fell out. I got frustrated and I threw my hands up in the air and ever so gracefully shouted, “I am not a man!” I’m sure that was news to everyone. Ha! But the point is that I had to suck it up and take one part at a time. My mother always said, “How do you eat an elephant?” Of course all sorts of smart alec comments came to mi

There’s something interesting about Texas and Oklahoma freeways. They don’t have any.  Nope, they have something called  “Turnpikes”.   There are very good reasons for these turn pikes. They usually go directly from a to b without stop lights. Okay. So that’s good. Plus, you can drive up to 75 mph! No kidding! First time I saw a 75 mph sign I nearly jumped out of the car in delight. I always wanted to be a race car driver! Might be as close as I get. Anyway there are two down sides to turnpikes. The first one is that you have to pay to drive on them. Ask anyone. It can be up to a dollar per exit. I had to get a Pike Pass because there are so many tolls between me and well... anywhere that my car would have been weighed down with the weight of the change. So. Here’s the other problem.  Once you get on a turnpike they don’t have any EXITS! So, a toll road has exits, but you have to pay to take one. A turnpike has something called, “Midway”. Which literally means you are half way to..

I’ve often heard that God is  love.  What does that mean? I know that he sent Jesus to pay for our sins... that was love. Unconditional, we certainly didn’t deserve it. But that is a portrayal of love. I’m having trouble understanding how he “is” love.  So I went to 1st Corinthians chapter 13 and I read verses 4-8. So, here’s the run down. God is patient (long suffering). Yes. He takes his time and is a God that can wait. Ok so God is kind... that means he can’t be cruel or hateful or abusive. That means that kindness is who he is, not what he does. Awesome ! Now I’m going to skip the next one for now. I’ll get back to it later. Then it says that he doesn’t parade himself around.  Now that’s just cool. If anybody should have a parade it should be God. But if you look at Jesus, he’d rather serve than have a parade. Now he did have one parade, but that was to fulfill his destiny, not his ego. Ok, so next...he is not “puffed up” . What? I looked that phrase up through an onlin

I’ve often been accused of simplifying things. I own it. I heard a sermon recently about “The Judgement Day!”  I have to tell you that it freaked me out a little. I grew up with the mentality of GUILT! Even if I didn’t do anything particularly offensive, still there was guilt to keep me humble? Did it really? No guilt and condemnation have one thing in common: torment. I replayed all the sermons I’d heard on The Judgement Day” da da da... (think... Law  and Order  on tv). Guilt is like a shark. You’re in the ocean, you know it’s there, but you just don’t realize how dangerous it is until it bites you. So I have some rhetorical questions. Did fear ever turn a heart toward God? I grew up with the thought that Jesus was the only way to avoid Hell! Hell was talked about a lot!  I’m only going to give you I’ve example of what Hell might be like. I’m going to use Adolph Hitler as an example. I read this once in a book and I can’t get it out of my head. I don’t even know the name of th